"Its My Mission to Improve the Lives of Women with ADHD" But WHY?

My why....

My Why

Where do I even begin? My journey has been nothing short of a whirlwind. After nearly 18 years in the same field (basically my entire career), I reached a breaking point. One day, I just stopped and thought, What am I doing here? I realized I was surrounded by people I didn’t connect with, in a job I didn’t love, with no room to grow or make meaningful decisions. I felt like I was losing myself, completely disconnected from the values I hold dear: authenticity, curiosity, and personal growth. And all the while, I felt stuck in a constant state of stress, like I was living on the edge.

As I reflected, I was also grappling with a long-standing internal question: Could I have ADHD?

I’d struggled with ADHD for most of my life, though I didn’t fully understand it until recently. For years, I only acknowledged the “good” traits—creativity, intense curiosity, bursts of energy, and natural optimism. But in hindsight, the signs were always there. As a child, I was loud, messy, and constantly restless, always pushing boundaries and avoiding anything that felt limiting. I was different, and while I embraced my uniqueness, I always felt somewhat out of place.

Then, a series of wake-up calls forced me to confront things head-on. Take the Range Rover incident—I drove it for a full week, ignoring a terrible clunking noise, until, as my mechanic put it, I’d caused “cataclysmic engine failure.” Or the time I lost my passport on the first night of a work conference in Vegas, resulting in five days of awkward jokes from colleagues and deep embarrassment on my end. I ended up stranded there for a week, dragging my suitcase up and down the Strip until a kind hotel manager let me stay without ID. For the rest of the trip, I didn’t even dare leave my room. I did sneak in a few games of roulette (hello, dopamine rush), but the whole experience left me feeling frustrated, hopeless, and totally lost. At 37, I felt clueless. I wondered if it was even possible to rein in some of the chaos and feel a little more "normal."

I sat down and took stock. I listed out all the ways ADHD had impacted my life in the past year, and it was emotional. There were losses, missed opportunities, and a lot of regret. I went through a kind of grieving process—why hadn’t someone noticed sooner? Why hadn’t I?

(If this resonates with you, feel free to download my free “I Think I Have ADHD” toolkit here—it might be a helpful start.)

I dove into everything I could find on ADHD, dedicating every waking hour to learning about it (let’s just call it hyperfixation!). I don’t even like thinking of it as a “disorder” anymore. This journey is ongoing, fueling my own personal growth and keeping me informed so I can help others. I started experimenting with ways to manage my symptoms, realizing that I’d already been using some creative self-management tools without even knowing it. Of course, this led me to set new goals and rethink my career. It was painfully clear that I disliked my job, where I had no autonomy and worked alongside people as creative as dead slugs.

I quickly signed up for an ADHD-focused coaching course and began reflecting on the lives of my closest friends, many of whom are neurodivergent in some way. I attended conferences and started connecting with more and more neurodivergent women, often those who had lived much of their lives undiagnosed. Many of them, like me, had experienced phases where symptoms intensified, often due to major life changes or hormonal shifts.

This period also coincided with a bit of a spiritual awakening for me. I joined a women’s circle, got into breathwork and meditation, and even completed crystal healing and Reiki Level 1 courses. This holistic foundation taught me techniques for grounding and finding clarity, and I draw on these tools in my coaching practice today. Meditation and breathwork, in particular, have been life-changing ways for me to pause and refocus.

It was at this point that I realised my calling: helping women with ADHD not only survive but thrive.

Having spent so much of my life feeling lost, misunderstood, and like I was falling short, I knew I wanted to make this my mission. While coaching doesn’t replace therapy or medication, it does provide a safe space to talk about life, set goals, and create a plan that moves you forward. We can tackle specific areas, build productive habits, and design a life aligned with your true self. Part of this journey is about acceptance, validation, and continually learning what helps life feel a bit easier—whether it’s disconnecting from your phone, stopping people-pleasing, or establishing a better morning routine.

Wherever you are on your journey, I would love to help you. I know firsthand the relief that comes with feeling validated and having support along the way. Let me help you go from chaos to clarity and truly thrive.